Going on Leave

Today, after my check-up, the conclusion was that I need to begin maternity leave sooner rather than later.  I’m retaining water, which is not unusual for being 38 weeks pregnant, but I’ve gained 6 lbs since last week and my ankles are pretty swollen.  As Ed told me, 6 lbs of water weight is almost a gallon! It’s scary when you think about it that way.  While my blood pressure is healthy, they’re concerned it will go up if I don’t get more rest.

When the doctor told me that I needed to make tomorrow my last day, I burst into tears.  I think hormones may have been involved…  I felt a combination of sadness (I thought I had one more week!) and relief (I’m exhausted!).

It’s going to be strange not to go to work next week, while my students and colleagues are still there.  It’s not like a regular vacation, and it will feel weird to have life go on there without me.  I’ve never NOT worked.  But I’m sure that I won’t have time to worry about work once the baby makes his appearance.

Everyone tells me that becoming a mother is a life-changing experience, and I suppose leaving work is only a small fraction of that (since, of course, I will go back to work next year!).  It just hit me that it’s so real now, the baby is coming soon, and life will change forever.  I’m really excited for our new adventure into parenthood!

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  1. I’m glad you’re excited because we’re all really excited for you!! Make the most of your last few days without baby. I’ll be thinkin’ about you. :)

  2. Oh here it comes!!! Take all the rest you can get now while you can. I remember complaining
    hto my mom when my first daughter was a fw weeks old, how tired I was. She said “get used to it, you are going to be tired for the rest of your life.” god damn her she was right. Sixteen years and two kids later and I can barely fond my ass with both hands tied behind my back. Best of Lu k

  3. Abbie, you won’t regret the time off later, I worked until my due date, and then delivered two weeks later. When I went back to work I could see how many mistakes I had made because I was sooo tired. But at the time I just couldn’t see (or admit it), luckily all my friends understood.

    The most important job you have now is getting prepared for the big event. Sending good thoughts your way :)

  4. goatldi

    I had my children in the 70′s. I was lucky enough to be a stay at home mom. I did an array of things to augment DH’s income and I am now, 30 ought years later, so glad that I was able to be home with them. Even tho there were times I thought I was never going to get out of the sandbox.

    Enjoy this time it will never come round again.

  5. It is odd to walk (or, in my case, waddle) away from work on that last day. It feels very FINAL, clearing out your desk and packing up your photos. Sitting around the house on a Monday morning and watching Regis and Kelly feels odd. But this is going to be a really brief time. Soon you’ll have your baby in your arms, and it will be a whole new ballgame, so try to enjoy the break while you get it. :)

  6. I know how you feel about “life going on without you” but you probably really do need this quiet rest before the baby arrives. Take good care of yourself! I’m thinking of you!

  7. Rest up, he’ll be here very soon. At least it’s only a week early. You need to be in top form to bring him into the world, so take it easy and let Ed take care of things for a bit.

  8. Leslie

    Good luck to you! I ended up doing the same thing with my first. It was amazing how quickly I forgot about work! I am a teacher too, and I just couldn’t fathom someone standing in for ME in MY classroom. Didn’t take long to adjust.

  9. I made a snap decision the Monday before Liam was born because after my reflexology session I such consistent contractions that my midwife told me to stay home, rest and eat. :D Of those directions, I only ate. And only fruit. However, I did use that time to get all the little nit-picky organization done, scrapbook, make thank you cards and had all the parts to our announcements done… just needed that baby photo!

    The hardest part for me was knowing that someone else was sitting in my desk, making my decisions and grading my papers. I eventually got over it, but it was harder than I ever thought possible! Who knew I cared so much about the actual organization of student binders!

    • Haha! I’m finding that I’m very conerned that assignments be worth an appropriate amount of points. My former student teacher will be subbing, and I got over all that other stuff when she student taught. It was very hard to give up control then, but now that I know she’s going to be a great teacher, I’m happy it’s her. I’m not sure how I would feel if it was someone else, though!

  10. Rob

    Joan Rivers said “Having a baby can be a scream!”. LOL Lets hope you don’t find out if that’s true

  11. Ab,

    Reading through everyone’s wonderful thoughts for you brought tears to my eyes; but what doesn’t these days because I’m going to be a grandmother!

    This is one lucky little baby because he has so many people who care for him and he hasn’t even arrived yet! You’re also so fortunate to have such a wonderful group of friends who support you online and in person! So happy to be part of this community!

    I felt the very same about leaving work before you were born, but believe me, once I held you in my arms, the farthest thing from my thoughts was the work I left behind. You filled every moment of my day and I was totally enraptured, in love with you. It is such a treat to be able to spend every moment in the day with a newborn, leaving the mundane stuff to others, so that you can just concentrate on this new little miracle. It’s impossible to describe until you’ve been there and it sounds like the other mothers who’ve commented on your post know what I mean.

    You were 5 days late and I can remember each languid day, just waiting for you to arrive. Being home at that point was new to me, too, because I had just stopped work on your due date, and each day our Golden (Rusty, who Dukie so resembles!) and I would go for a walk in the orchard, wondering when the moment would come, when you would arrive. (***Sniff, sniff ***)

    Leave the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping to others (me included!), enjoy your new baby and just let us hold him once in a while, too!

    You’re also SO lucky to have your student teacher–and friend–taking over your classes for you, so you know your students are in great hands.

    So put those feet up, dream, and be patient! Oh, and tell Ed, I do believe a gallon of water weighs about 8.35 lbs., so you’re not even close!

    Love you all. Bringing supper over tonight, just so I can see you!

    Love,
    Mom

  12. Aunt Sara

    Abbie,
    I agree with your mom…especially the part about letting others (me included) hold him. If you let your baby sense that you trust other people, your baby will trust too!

    also, a great benefit of the town where you work is that new mothers can take up to 2 years maternity leave and still be guarenteed a job when you return. Very few systems do this.

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